Grace just told me:
"God will always love you, no matter what. And we should never be afraid. In the Bible, angels always say, 'Do not be afraid. Jesus is still here.'
Did you know that when Jesus grew up big and strong, a bad man saw him? And made him carry a big wooden heavy cross? And then he hung Jesus on the cross. And he DIED on the cross so that we won't die! "
Me: "That's right. That means that after we die, we get to go to Heaven."
GP: "Yes. And we'll be in heaven FOREVER! And then the pirates will be there, too!"
Pirates?
Friday, September 19, 2008
LOST on ABC.com
Terry and I have really gotten into this lately. We have blockbuster online and have made it through season 2, episode 4 so far. It's a rather clever show.
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Wednesday, September 17, 2008
The Business of Being Born
A friend of mine posted her impressions regarding The Business of Being Born. She and her husband felt it was anti-doctor and against hospitals. I just posted a loooong response on her blog, and thought I'd put it up on mine as a post. :) I hope that's okay, aimee!!!
I think "THe Business of Being Born" was one sided on purpose--because shows like Maternity Ward, and A Baby Story, tend to show mostly hospital births where the doctor swoops in to call all of the shots.
I wanted a natural birth desperately with Grace. My doctor, a Christian whom I trusted, told me I HAD to have a c/s. I didn't want one, I told him, and he said, "You HAVE to." Terry asked, "isn't there another way?" and we were told "no." My op record says that we OPTED for the procedure. And there was NO reason for a cesarean, other than the fact that labor was taking longer than the doctor wanted to wait.
The problem is that doctors DO have to be careful of liability. They are more likely to call shots based on potential legal issues than what's truly better for the mother.
Look at VBACs!!! I had to jump through all kinds of hoops to get a natural birth with AJ, because although VBACs are usually safer than multiple cesareans, most doctors won't risk their insurance.
I don't hate doctors. But I do believe that they are trained as surgeons first, baby catchers second.
When in labor, you are essentially helpless. You have NO control over what medication goes in your IV, whether the doctor breaks your water with your permission or without,whether you're allowed in the birthing tub or shower, etc. You are focusing on contractions and trying to make it moment by moment. A birth plan can be regarded--or disregarded--at the doctor's discretion. Who is going to check out of the hospital in the middle of heavy labor just because you don't like the way the doctor is treating you? Your options are severely limited, and the doctor and nursing staff know it. The staff want it easier on them, which means pressure for an epidural. Natural labor is HARD work and the staff find it more time consuming to help a patient going naturally.
The best thing we did was hire a doula. :) She helped ask the questions we didn't think to ask and I feel that her presence showed the hospital staff we were very serious about the birth experience we needed.
Anyhow. Not every birth experience is like that, and I don't mean to paint all hospitals and doctors with this paintbrush. But this IS the general state of birthing in the United States. That's why we must be so educated on what our bodies can actually do!!!!
I think "THe Business of Being Born" was one sided on purpose--because shows like Maternity Ward, and A Baby Story, tend to show mostly hospital births where the doctor swoops in to call all of the shots.
I wanted a natural birth desperately with Grace. My doctor, a Christian whom I trusted, told me I HAD to have a c/s. I didn't want one, I told him, and he said, "You HAVE to." Terry asked, "isn't there another way?" and we were told "no." My op record says that we OPTED for the procedure. And there was NO reason for a cesarean, other than the fact that labor was taking longer than the doctor wanted to wait.
The problem is that doctors DO have to be careful of liability. They are more likely to call shots based on potential legal issues than what's truly better for the mother.
Look at VBACs!!! I had to jump through all kinds of hoops to get a natural birth with AJ, because although VBACs are usually safer than multiple cesareans, most doctors won't risk their insurance.
I don't hate doctors. But I do believe that they are trained as surgeons first, baby catchers second.
When in labor, you are essentially helpless. You have NO control over what medication goes in your IV, whether the doctor breaks your water with your permission or without,whether you're allowed in the birthing tub or shower, etc. You are focusing on contractions and trying to make it moment by moment. A birth plan can be regarded--or disregarded--at the doctor's discretion. Who is going to check out of the hospital in the middle of heavy labor just because you don't like the way the doctor is treating you? Your options are severely limited, and the doctor and nursing staff know it. The staff want it easier on them, which means pressure for an epidural. Natural labor is HARD work and the staff find it more time consuming to help a patient going naturally.
The best thing we did was hire a doula. :) She helped ask the questions we didn't think to ask and I feel that her presence showed the hospital staff we were very serious about the birth experience we needed.
Anyhow. Not every birth experience is like that, and I don't mean to paint all hospitals and doctors with this paintbrush. But this IS the general state of birthing in the United States. That's why we must be so educated on what our bodies can actually do!!!!
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
Kissing
Grace has taken to chasing some boys around the playground, trying to kiss them. *rolls eyes* It's funny to her. I heard her giggling, telling a boy today that she's going to kiss him.
I mentioned that it's not okay to do that. She can kiss family--daddy, AJ, uncle Kyle, grandpa . . . but that's it.
It came up at lunch with Terry today and thankfully he said almost the exact same thing.
I mentioned that it's not okay to do that. She can kiss family--daddy, AJ, uncle Kyle, grandpa . . . but that's it.
It came up at lunch with Terry today and thankfully he said almost the exact same thing.
Search For Significance
This is a study my church has started, using the book of the same title. I'm excited about the book and hoping to learn much from it! It's written by a Christian psychotherapist, and I suspect it will do my mental health a world of good. :)
Meanwhile, we're waiting to make our big "we're moving" announcement. We've let those in leadership at our church know, and i think we're going to make it public knowledge starting tonight at our home group. In a way, I'm afraid that we're backing out of a mission. In another way, I feel like we've done what we needed to do.
Terry and I have grown so much, spiritually and emotionally. I've watched Terry step into church leadership like he was born for it. I've seen him talk to coworkers about his faith and what Jesus means to him. I've watched him minister to other men at church in accountability groups. I've heard him witness to his family and I've seen him be a great soccer coach for Grace. I love him more than I ever have before, and I do believe that Utah helped make a good marriage fabulous. We've grown closer as a result of having to depend on each other, and we've supported each other in difficult moments.
I will miss our church dearly. But I miss my family, friends, and the ocean more.
Meanwhile, we're waiting to make our big "we're moving" announcement. We've let those in leadership at our church know, and i think we're going to make it public knowledge starting tonight at our home group. In a way, I'm afraid that we're backing out of a mission. In another way, I feel like we've done what we needed to do.
Terry and I have grown so much, spiritually and emotionally. I've watched Terry step into church leadership like he was born for it. I've seen him talk to coworkers about his faith and what Jesus means to him. I've watched him minister to other men at church in accountability groups. I've heard him witness to his family and I've seen him be a great soccer coach for Grace. I love him more than I ever have before, and I do believe that Utah helped make a good marriage fabulous. We've grown closer as a result of having to depend on each other, and we've supported each other in difficult moments.
I will miss our church dearly. But I miss my family, friends, and the ocean more.
Sunday, September 14, 2008
More Angel
She got a hold of my Agatha Christie's "A Murder is Announced" today. We're setting up a video camera tomorrow. I can't wait to see what she does.
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
Home
Terry interviewed a few weeks ago for a position within his company that would take us back to the Space Coast. We didn't hear by the deadline of last week, and had pretty much given up hope.
I was disappointed. But I felt a sense of peace that whether we go or stay, I would bloom where I was planted.
Terry got the job today! YAY!!! Here's to blooming some hibiscus in Florida!
I was disappointed. But I felt a sense of peace that whether we go or stay, I would bloom where I was planted.
Terry got the job today! YAY!!! Here's to blooming some hibiscus in Florida!
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